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How birth affects life

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Did you know that human babies have the ability to record all the information that comes to them through experiences of their mother, right from the moment of conception? If we are willing, we can gift ourselves a new start from where we are now in our lives. We can transform ourselves to be better people, better parents, a better society, thriving as human beings together with our planet, instead of struggling to survive.

 

Here are a few things you probably didn’t learn in sex education class, pre-natal class, biology or religion.

These circumstances have an effect on who and how you are today…

  • Your mother and father’s thoughts and feelings at the time of your conception
  • The experiences, thoughts and emotions of your mother during pregnancy
  • The fears and subconscious behavioural patterns of your parents, grandparents and ancestral lineage
  • The way your birth was experienced by you and your parents

Did you know that human babies have the ability to record all the information that comes to them through experiences of their mother, right from the moment of conception? This information, stored in the limbic brain (known as limbic imprinting) forms our first, basic understanding of what love is and what life is like on planet Earth. These early experiences from conception through to childhood create our basic beliefs, which we often continue to operate from for the rest of our lives.

The way we are conceived, nurtured in the womb and born really does matter. The predominant emotional states during this formative period become the ‘home frequency’ for the baby. In other words, the frequency that feels familiar or ‘comfortable’. Fear-based emotions at the time of conception, during pregnancy and birth, create a negative limbic imprint, with high stress levels causing a disconnection between the baby’s nervous system and body. If stress or trauma were prevailing, the limbic brain will register pain as the norm, the nervous system adopting suffering as its comfort zone. The result is a human being with no real reference point or understanding of what it’s like to truly feel safe, loved and welcome. On the other hand, if baby was mostly bathing in love hormones like oxytocin during gestation and birth, she will physically thrive and feel safe to come fully into her body.

Stressful pregnancies and challenging or uncertain relationships often lead to difficult labours and complications or birth trauma.Our own birth experience plays a major role in forming our understanding of life. After all, the moment of our birth is our very first experience of what life is like, outside of and separate from our mother. The degree of ease and love with which you were born is directly related to how you experience your life now. Your own birth experience also determines your primal understanding of what birth is like, often influencing how you will birth your own children.

Have you ever contemplated what your core understandings of life and love are? Do you continue with behaviours, beliefs or patterns that are limiting or even self-destructive even though you ‘know better’? Our limbic imprints are strong and influential in our everyday lives. However they often go undetected, stemming from a subconscious part of us.

When the fears and emotional baggage of parents are not cleared during pregnancy (preferably even before conception), these beliefs will be passed onto the baby. Some of your core beliefs and your emotional ‘stuff’ probably don’t belong to you, but rather come from your mother or grandmother or further back. And while our beginnings, no matter what they look like, served us in some ways (there is always a gift), a good question to ask now is, “Are those initial beliefs and behaviours that I learned still serving me today, where I am now, who I want to be now?” Or perhaps there are some limiting behaviours and beliefs that you would like to change.

Once we develop an awareness of our early imprints, we are able to use our conscious intention to change them, to re-code the nervous system for healthier, happier perceptions of life and love. To heal any negative imprints we must return to their source way back in our early beginnings, even before birth. By re-writing any less than wonderful circumstances, we can place new reference points in the nervous system based on love, invoking our emotional and physical memory of bliss, which is our birthright.

With the ever-evolving understanding of pre-natal psychology, neuroplasticity, epigenetics and energy psychology, simple yet highly effective processes to rewrite our initial imprints have been developed. These understandings and processes could become a regular part of sex education and childbirth preparation so that we as a society begin to grasp the real responsibility of creating human beings as well as our amazing potential for healing.

Elena Tonetti-Vladimirova, creatress of Birth into Being, which is one method for such change, writes about her work with limbic imprint re-coding, “The emphasis is not about going deep into our original birth trauma, but in arriving back from it, victorious! It is about recovering our original impulse to be born on Earth at this time, and remembering who we are and what brought us here. We shed the confusion imposed on us during our early years. It’s about getting a fresh start so we can experience our true, direct connection with the Source from which we emerged”.

If we are willing, we can gift ourselves a new start from where we are now in our lives. We can gift the future generations with the best start we can possibly offer. We can better understand and provide space for healing our children already born. We can transform ourselves to be better people, better parents, a better society, thriving as human beings together with our planet, instead of struggling to survive.

If we change the way we are born, we change the way we live! It’s that simple.

 

Melissa Aardema is a mother, conscious birth doula and advanced practitioner of the ‘Birth Into Being’ Method, trained by Elena Tonetti-Vladimirova. Currently based in FNQ, Melissa facilitates workshop groups around Australia.

You can find her at www.birthintobeing.com.au or www.thebirthingfield.com.

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