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Are you too strong to ask for help?

In Mind and Movement by Jena GriffithsLeave a Comment

Usually I’m pretty hopeless at reaching out and asking for help. Most of us are. We feel weak reaching out but actually the opposite is true. The other day I heard Brendon Burchard say that he has made it a daily practice of asking one person for help every day.

Why? It keeps him feeling humble and connected! What an enchanting idea.

It reminds me of Brene Brown who says, “Vulnerability is a most accurate measurement of courage. It is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness but it’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.”

Receiving is also giving. It is a way to help others feel valuable and appreciated. We fear revealing our of soft underbelly, but this is what makes us loveable. Vulnerability is the glue that holds people, couples, societies and even nations together.

As they say in Africa, “Ubuntu.” I am because you are. You are because I am.

I like to think of it this way: we switch our own light off a moment so that others can shine.

You may not realise this, but some of your personality strengths may get in the way of your asking for help– strong self-reliant or stoic characteristics; your love for freedom or your innate drive to serve. You can see many of these characteristics in your hands.

Think of reaching out as just one more muscle that needs strengthening too.

Here is what I’m going to do.

•   Make a wish list of all the things I need help with and post it somewhere visible. Make it a daily habit.

•   I will make asking for help a daily practice. Each day I will reach out and ask for help from one other person.

Yiiii…did I say that?

What’s your action plan?


Jena Griffiths is an internationally acclaimed hand analyst and an IIHA faculty teacher with degrees in psychology, geography and education. On her trip to Queensland, she will also be visiting Glasshouse mountains one sunrise.

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