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Family violence – healing; not fighting

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Hong Curley’s answer in March to a reader’s question about violence has provoked interest from some of our readers, who have reacted to a situation that she was not talking about –brutal physical violence, which is a hot topic in the mainstream media right now.

It’s true that LivingNow could have made it clearer that Hong’s response was not to physically violent and dangerous circumstances, but, while it is awesome that society has opened the doors to what was once held behind closed doors, we note that the readers who have raised the issue with us have demonstrated how easily we may be misled by the media and our love of the dramatic.

So we have asked Hong to elaborate on her article because we wish to bring to light a few issues, including that there are many versions of violence; that both men and woman are victims and perpetrators of violence; that we can make a choice through compassion, love and understanding to create our lives as our souls desire. We all need to take responsibility for a truth we may not be able to see at first, and once we see it we can then heal.

Probably the most important thing that Hong has to teach us is that, by our very reactions to the issue of violence, we are in fact fanning violence with our input of aggressive and righteous energies: “My words may again shock you if you have a fundamental belief that you are a victim of violence, that someone else has the power over you, and that you must fight violence with righteousness. Please let me make myself clear that I am not for or against your beliefs in any way. I am only interested in promoting spiritual intelligence to solve life’s issues. To do that, we must rip open our mask, and expose our secondary gains. We must expose the hidden agenda of our ego to the light of our intelligence if we want to terminate our suffering for good. It takes a lot of courage to say ‘I am also the cause of this situation, and I own my share of responsibility’. Admitting this is the very first step toward liberating yourself from any form of violent relationship.”

We don’t expect everyone to agree, but we offer these thoughts as they are concomitant with the purpose of LivingNow magazine to offer options to inspire, inform, empower and nurture our readers.

If we were referring to a woman in immediate danger, there is no doubt that she needs to get help by perhaps phoning 000 –but this was never the person that Hong was addressing and, when you re-read her answer, you will see that.

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