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I keep telling myself ‘poor me’

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Hong Curley answers readers’ questions

I’ve just finishing reading the LivingNow magazine for the first time ever! May I say what an enlightenment it has been.

My name is Anna. I’m 32 years old, currently living in Australia. When i was 14 I jumped a fence and landed on my right hip, fracturing it. For too long have I endured the pain, discomfort and embarrassment of my shortened leg which causes me to limp. I was very active and loved to be healthy and sporty in my teen years prior to this injury. In those years I knew nothing about the benefits of physio, massaging, stretching, etc. Only in my adult years I have found and taught myself about these things. I understand about letting stuff go and working out why I still hold onto some of these emotions. I believe I have surrendered my mind, body and soul to the higher power and have asked for guidance to help me heal myself. It’s good for about a week and then it goes back to normal.

I’m at a point now where I don’t like to go out much because of the pain, and I want to conserve my energy for my work, which is as a cleaning dentist, so it can be very physical most times. I try to stretch. It’s sore most of the time. Somatics helps, but I can only do so much.

I get very emotional sometimes about this because of the ‘poor me’  line I keep telling myself, but I know I’m grateful for the ability to walk, and I still have all my limbs. It’s frustrating and it’s holding me back from doing simple things I would like to do like running, walking without a limp, sitting in a cross-legged position to meditate. Almost every day I massage and release tension on my right leg, hip and ankle, and now it’s travelled up my back, into my rib cage and now my neck. Please help!



Dear Anna, thank you for reaching out.

Physical pain may be inevitable, but suffering is a choice. Pain is a physical reality, which requires treatments to ease and manage it, but suffering is not a reality. It is a perspective based on your choice of interpretation.

What had happened to you when you were 14 has created physical pain and discomfort for you. At the physical level you treat and manage it the best you can–more below.

What else can we do with things we cannot change in life? We can only make peace with it. Otherwise, the physical pain will turn into suffering, and the suffering in turn will make the pain worse, then anger, depression, blame–all these negative emotions –will take hold of your being, and life basically will become very nasty from here. Not only will you have physical pain; you will have emotional suffering on top of that.

I am very proud of you for wanting to surrender to higher spirit, but surrendering to higher power is not something you do for a week or two. It is a very serious commitment, a very dedicated way of life. Every day you must set the intention to surrender your pain to the hand of the Divine, and you need to give up your story of victimhood and re-write the story of a creator. You must find out what your soul is trying to teach you through this accident because every incident in life is created by your higher self to take you to another level of understanding and spiritual growth.

At the physical level, I will suggest for you to check out Microcurrent Therapy. It is a very effective therapy for pain management and tissue regeneration. At the spirit level, I will suggest you check out Genome Healing Therapy. This is a conscious technology that uses your spiritual power to transform pain into freedom at the realm of the Creator.

I hope this helps Anna. I know how frustrating it can be when you are not able to do simple things like everyone else, but please don’t focus on this. I know it is hard not to feel frustrated at a situation like this, but frustration will not help a bit. What will help is to make peace with whatever it is, do your best to manage it, and then focus on what it is you can do–and do it with joy and gratitude.

Blessings to you Anna

Hong Curley

Hong is a Chinese medical doctor who specialised in psychological healing before she retired. She earned her expert status from having conducted over 38,000 consultations. She is author of Freedom to Love. 

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