The following is what I wrote for my editorial for November. I realised that my life and my writing are becoming too fragmented and I’m not sure to whom I’ve written what. So I figured the best way to manage is to post my magazine editorial into the blog as well.
Someone wrote to me the other day lamenting my state of despair. I was amazed. I am not in a state of despair. Certainly I wrote in a recent blog posting about being off line for a couple of weeks because I’d sort of ‘hit the wall’. However, as I pointed out to this correspondent, we all go through stages of growth which often start with a downward spiral or where something comes up to hit you in the face so that you look at it really full on. I guess most people are sensible enough not to write about it. In fact, my hitting the wall meant I could not face writing publicly but was still functioning in my daily life. However, I’ve had it proven often enough – and you probably have too – that these dips are what catapult us into the biggest advances. It’s like we have to pedal downhill furiously so that we get a better run-up for the next hill.
I’m actually excited to tell you that I’m going through probably the biggest and best growth phase ever in this lifetime – I can’t believe I had to wait 63 years to gain this knowledge, but aha, maybe that is one reason why I have finally got answers – years of practice. On top of the practice, or perhaps underlying it, I had understanding that I was on a path and led by Spirit. Without Spirit, the dips and lulls may be disastrous, or at best meaningless.
This issue we have an article about the numerology of the potential US presidency candidates. I know that you’ll possibly be reading this after the election, but we considered it interesting enough for you to still read it in hindsight to see how their numbers played out.
Also in this issue we have some interesting new products for your growth and edification. Of course we always have such products, but there are some particularly noteworthy ones this time – the DVD “What About Me?” (cover and pp.5-7), the book “Beyond Neanderthal” (p.35) and an ad heralding the other new DVD, “The Workshop” (p.12) – with more regarding the last one next month.
You may remember that in my last editorial (October) I printed part of a letter from Rudran Brannock, the author of the men’s story in the September magazine, pointing out that we had an article in the same magazine making the male of the relationship into the ‘bad’ guy. The author of that article responded that, in her series, the people at fault in the relationship under discussion was equally male and female. Indeed, the article we have this issue (and have had sitting here since she submitted the whole series months ago – in other words, not written as a rejoinder) does paint the female as being in the wrong (p. 30). However, while I needed to clear the situation for that author, the fact remains that the mainstream media gives the male such a hard time, preferring to publish only gory details and not the feel-good stories when men are at their best. My stated intention is to start rectifying this situation. Indeed, there is another story by Rudran (p.12) claiming that the war of the sexes is over. It certainly will be if we women all start treating our men fairly, and if our men earn our trust.
Yesterday, I received a letter from Finn McMillan about the same issue:
“I have worked as a relationship counsellor, men’s counsellor, and currently as a family relationships advisor and mediator. In these professional roles, it is of continuing dismay to see that an intellectually and emotionally shallow tendency to equate all (or most) blame (and therefore, also, power and responsibility) to one gender over another typically prevails as a ‘default’ assumption by many.
“Speaking as a man, I can say that as a personal affront it is of minimal concern. I am of a generation that has never had to fight in a war or hunt or kill to protect my family. So if these beliefs are the worst I have to contend with then I will consider myself fortunate! The real problem, however, is that, in trying to put down, or attack the male or the male role, ultimately what occurs is that families, women and children suffer. A woman that expects a man to shoulder disproportionate responsibility, or a child that assumes the worst of a father, suffers as much as if not more than a man as a result.”
Powerful words. I don’t know about you, but I dropped into another level of understanding with that last sentence. We all know of women who ‘poison’ their young children against their father. Maybe we had it happen to us. Maybe we were guilty of it. Think about the effect. Think about it in the worst cases you know of, and then think about the small negativities you were personally responsible for. I know I was. It’s the same in all our interpersonal relationships of course. Just remember that it is like being pregnant – you are or you are not – nothing in between. All small negativities might be almost infinitesimal bits of poison, but they are still poison, and poison accumulates.
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